Saturday Snap – 10 Things We Had At Our Wedding (That Most People Don’t)

Went to a co-worker’s wedding today and felt like I virtually attended another one with how many updates I was seeing on my Facebook newsfeed.

As always, that gets me thinking about Shea’s and my own wedding nine and a half years ago.

Talking to some of the other guests at this most recent wedding made me realize how many unique elements our three weddings had.

 

1. Three weddings – the legal one with a JP in our living room in Calgary, the ceremonial one on the beach in Mexico (which we consider our “real” one) and the reception/party one in Shea’s hometown for all the family and friends who couldn’t join us in Mexico

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2. Calgary’s cheapest JP (I called them all.)

3. The reason she was the cheapest? She was twice divorced, a detail that came up post-ceremony over a glass of wine when my cousin and his girlfriend who stood up with Shea and I revealed they were both currently undergoing divorces of their own.

Mexico

4. The “mawidge” monologue from “The Princess Bride” integrated into our own vows

5. A topless woman lounging on the beach as we did our rehearsal walk-thru

Creelman

6. A first dance where the bride and groom immediately left the dance floor while all other couples stayed through a number of verses of our chosen song based on the length of their marriage and then, not having planned it this way but it worked out perfectly as two couples – one from my side and one from hers – both were out there at the end having made it 40+ years of marriage.

7. A last dance song

8. Karaoke

9. Tequila shots

10. Cuban cigarillos that were mistaken for marijuana joints by the mother of the bride (prompting the bride to jokingly (?) tell her mom, “Mom, the people smoking pot went *behind* the house to do it!”)

Bonus: Pipe bombs (don’t ask)

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Friday Fun Link – 11 Month Old Twins Dance To Daddy’s Guitar

Go ahead and try not to smile – I dare you!

On Getting Along With People

One of the things I pride myself on is my ability to get along with people and treat people equally. In fact, I’d hazard a guess that if a range of friends, acquaintances and colleagues were quizzed about my defining characteristic, they’d say “friendly”.

My ability to get along with a wide range of people goes for (almost) all personality types; all socioeconomic levels; all levels of our hierarchy when I’m at work; all levels of notoriety whether it’s a world-famous author at a reading or the janitor who’s cleaning up after the event is over.

I pride myself on this but I also know I’m not always successful.  As with most people, there are at least one or two personality types that will always be oil & water when I’m involved.   There are times when I allow myself to be starstruck by a celebrity, whether they deserve that awe or not.  There are times when I treat people filling different roles at my workplace differently.

And there’s also the self-awareness factor.  One of the realities of the notion of self-awareness is that you can never be fully self-aware as it’s impossible to fully know how others perceive you. As much as I like to think I get along with everyone and treat everyone equally, I’m sure there are people who think I’m an asshole or that I’ve mis-treated them in some way or whatever.

Anyhow, the reason I’m thinking about this topic is I had occasion to talk to a couple different colleagues today which, if the library were a Twilight novel, would have one member on “Team Edward” and one on “Team Jacob”.  Yet personally, I like both equally and enjoy my interactions with each of them equally as well.

And as I said off-the-top, I take great pride in that.

Ranking The Top 10 Milestones of a Person’s Life

In exactly one week, Pace starts kindergarten. It’s a cliche but it truly is hard to believe how fast the time has flown. I thought it might be fun to try to rank the major milestones of a person’s life. Other than being born and dying, I know not everyone will hit these milestones but this is more of a personal reflection…

  1. Being born – obviously this kicks off everything that comes after so it’s a pretty big deal!
  2. Dying – the flip side of the coin to #1.
  3. First Word – language is one of the most important attributes that humans have over (most) other animals so the first signs of acquiring language are hugely important. (I’ve told the story before but I spent much of my early years in a bulk fuel dealership my parents ran. That informed my first three words which were apparently “clock”, “combine” and “fuck”!)
  4. Graduating High School – there are other educational milestones – from starting kindergarten to finishing a college degree – but I’d argue that high school grad still has a special symbolism of a transition time in our culture.
  5. Getting Married – it’s such an important milestone, some people may do it two or even three times in their lives! 😉
  6. Driver’s License – is there anything that signifies a person’s growing independence than getting their driver’s license?
  7. First Steps – Driving may be the biggest symbol of a person’s independence but taking one’s first steps start you on that path.
  8. First Job – So many of these things are about the transition from childhood to adulthood and first job is definitely one that clearly marks that transition – even if you’re still living in your parent’s house when you get it!
  9. Legal Drinking Age – Not everyone chooses to imbibe but it’s a pretty big part of the social life of our culture and can play a role in everything from a toast at your wedding to a beer you have sitting in the sun at a Riders game to a shot of Bailey’s poured into your coffee on Christmas morning.
  10. Losing Virginity – it may not be as talked about as the others on this list but this is yet another major milestone on a person’s road to adulthood.

What else could go on this list? First car. First kiss. First major trip. First of anything pretty much, I guess. I’m sure there are others I’ve missed but those are some of the biggies off the top of my head.

Best of luck buddy!

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Handicapping the Sask NDP Leadership Race (Before It Even Begins)

Murray Mandryk of the Leader Post has some thoughts on the unofficial jockeying for position that’s happening behind-the-scenes as potential candidates position themselves for a run at the leadership of the Saskatchewan NDP. (I think candidates can officially begin announcing next month maybe?)

Based on Mandryk’s article, here are the presumed candidates (alphabetically) with what I see as their main strengths and weaknesses in my (admittedly limited) view:

Buckley Belanger
Strength:  Easily the most experienced of the potential candidates.
Weakness: The NDP is ready for an Aboriginal leader but I’m not sure if the province is.

Cam Broten
Strength: I have to be honest.  Cam is probably the candidate I know the least about of the four “big” names (even compared to Erin Weir who I’ve read articles by and seen on TV.)  So I can’t really speak to Broten’s strengths.  Mandryk says he’s arguably been the best performer of the small but mighty NDP caucus and simply being a sitting MLA is presumably an advantage in the eyes of some NDP members who will be voting for the next party leader.
Weakness:
Mandryk also observed that Broten has the least “trust” as he doesn’t seem to have gotten a team around him.  I don’t know how much truth there is to this as Mandryk’s based in Regina so perhaps isn’t as plugged in to what Broten’s supporters are doing behind-the-scenes in Saskatoon as the other candidates, all of whom already have vocal Regina-based supporters? But if that’s true, it doesn’t bode well for his chances.

Danielle Chartier
Strength: 
I personally don’t like having token candidates but there are some I’ve talked to who feel the race needs a female to run and would vote for a female candidate on that basis alone.  I wouldn’t base an entire campaign on having two x chromosomes but it could be a starting point for a broader appeal?
Weakness:  Even though she has the advantage of being a sitting MLA, she arguably has the lowest profile of any of the potential candidates including Ryan Meili who is well-known from his last leadership run and Erin Weir who has had lots of national media coverage as a pundit on various shows.

Ryan Meili
Strength: Well, I’m biased as a Ryan supporter but I still believe he’s the only potential candidate I’ve seen with the potential to be a transformative leader for our province.
Weakness:  A lot of people (including Mandryk) think that Ryan dropping out of the race for the Saskatoon-Sutherland nomination is a weakness but personally, I think that’s inside baseball that only the people who live & breathe politics care about.  Even among the general membership of the NDP, I doubt most people would care about this too much.  So for me, Ryan’s lack of actual political experience is probably his biggest weakness.

Trent Wotherspoon
Strength: Broten may be a better performer bur arguably, Trent has seemed to have a higher profile of the two (and based on the traveling he’s already doing around the province according to his Facebook page, I’d agree with Mandryk that Wotherspoon is probably the front-runner at this point.)
Weakness: Mandryk’s right on the money that Wotherspoon’s close association with Dwain Lingenfelter will likely be toxic (okay, Mandryk may not have used that exact word!) to his leadership run given the post-apocalyptic state of the NDP after Link’s short reign.

Erin Weir
Strength: For some, the fact that he’s a huge policy wonk and/or that he’s got an established national media profile will be big strengths for his campaign but I think that a strength is that he’s got potential to fill that “outsider who comes-out-of-nowhere” role that lifted Ryan Meili to a second place finish last time.
Weakness: In the same way that Ryan was an outsider to the party with little actual direct involvement with the NDP before his leadership race, Erin is similarly an outsider in that he’s got roots in the province but has been based outside of and built much of his profile beyond our borders, leaving him as more of an unknown commodity here.  

The other thing in the mix is that there’s always potential for someone unexpected and/or unknown to jump into the race.  I think Ryan Meili was that person last time so there could be someone else from the social justice movement or pretty much anywhere else that announces.  Or perhaps, if the NDP hasn’t been burned by the “bring back a former star” experiment with Link, someone like say, former MLA Andrew Thomson, could shake things up by announcing.  (Completely speculating there – just throwing out a name of a former rising star who was seen to have leadership ambitions at one point.)

Music Monday – “You Just Put Your Lips Together…and Blow”

I usually put a lyric from the featured song in the title of my Music Monday posts but this one’s a little harder for obvious reasons.

So instead, I’ve used a famous movie quote that’s quite fitting (so fitting, it was also referenced in a recent hit song called “Whistle“.)

(via Huffington Post)

Sappy Sunday – The 100 Saddest Songs

A whole bunch of sadness in convenient list form.

Coincidentally, I’ve just made a playlist on Rdio called “Guaranteed Tears” where I tried to collect all of the songs that have made me cry in the past.

(Sad songs list via MetaFilter)

 

Saturday Snap – Maple Bacon Crunch Ice Cream

I may have the best wife in the history of the universe – Shea made this earlier in the week and it was amazing!

Not sure if this is the exact recipe she used but it gives you the gist. (How often do you get to eat ice cream that comes from a food site’s “Pork” section?)

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Friday Fun Link – What Are Some of the Most Impressive Things Ever Built of Lego?

Pace has become an absolute Lego fiend in the past year or so.  He’ll spend hours building increasingly complex vehicles and scenes – many of which blow me away with how creative they are.

He’s not at this level yet but he’s getting there…

An Array of Minifigs, Good vs. Bad

We Can’t Go Camping Without Taking A Bucket of Lego

Robin Hangs in Peril From the Joker’s Tower as Batman Races To His Rescue On His Batpod

While watching YouTube Lego videos, he someone realised that the people were using an iPhone app to make their own videos (I’m pretty sure he didn’t read it but something clued him in), got his mom to download the app and with her help, made this…

The New Mobile: Why Millennials Are Choosing Smart Phones Over Cars (And A Bonus List of Topics I’m Interested In)

A variety of factors – from a depressed economy to a heightened environmental awareness to increasing urbanized living – means that many young people are rejecting the traditional signifiers of economic success – houses and cars -in favour of alternatives such as smart phones and shared living arrangements.

What this may mean for the economy is unknown but could be a radical shift to how our society operates in the future. Ultimately, excess funds not spent on houses and cars could be redirected to savings, education and other important areas.

Bonus List – Ten Topics of Interest To Me
They often say librarians are the ultimate generalists – knowledgeable in a broad swath of topics but rarely experts in any (er, short of knowing the Dewey Decimal System by heart – which all librarians do, of course!)

Here’s a list of ten topics, big and small, I personally find particularly interesting…

1. Personality & Its Impact on Inter-personal Dynamics
2. Inter-Generational Communications
3. The impact of social media on our lives as well as related topics – mobile, crowdsourcing, etc.
4. Post-apocalyptic scenarios
5. As mentioned in yesterday’s post about “50 Shades of Grey”, What Causes Something to Go Viral/Reach a “Tipping Point”
6. How Society Functions in all its inter-connected glory on the macro level – economics, politics, civil society, etc.  and micro level – how products are priced, how food gets to your table.
7. I’m a late-comer to truly appreciating all the various aspects of science, explained in a layman’s way, best exemplified in books like Bill Bryson’s “Short History of (Nearly) Everything” but others like “The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks”
8. Like many Canadians, I’m fascinated by American culture and society – how its so similar and yet so different from what we have here.
9. What Makes Organizations Successful
10. The Impact of Parenting on Who and What Children Become

Hmm, maybe I’m not as much of a generalist as I thought.  For a list off the top of my head, nearly half of that list sort of ties in to organizational culture and development.

Maybe I should re-do this list on an annual basis to see how it changes as that would actually probably be more revealing.