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How I Got Into Hawksley Workman

Someone on the Hawksley Workman “Papershoes” message board re-posted a review of the Hawksley Workman concert we went to in London last May.  Because I’m not a regular contributing member there, I think some of the commenters who had the impression I was a new Hawksley fan attending my first concert of his for some reason.

This is quite far from the truth and since it’s a pretty funny story, I thought I’d post the true history of my Hawksley fandom going back to a concert just down the road from London in Waterloo, way back in 2000 (probably when some of the posters on that board still thought Raffi was the biggest thing in music </grumpy old man>)

(Oh, and nobody ever posts when I put out blatant calls for comments but if you’re so inclined, I’d love to hear your stories of how you got into your favourite bands or memorable concert experiences.)
Okay, on with the story…

Through my work, I was sent to a conference in Toronto in June 2000.  The person who did the same job as I did but for the Book Publishers Association of Alberta instead of the Saskatchewan Publishers Group, wanted to go to a concert by some guy I think she says is named “Hawkeye”.

One catch is it’s in Waterloo and we’re in Toronto. I keep putting her off all week, trying to get her to find somebody else to go, saying “it’s Toronto – there must be ONE band we could see here instead!” and making various other excuses.  Finally on the day of the concert, she really starts hammering me. We’d seen Lou Reed at the Hummingbird Centre the night before and she goes “Okay, that was cool. But now imagine seeing Lou Reed when he first started with the Velvet Underground. That’s what going to this concert will be like. And in twenty years, when Hawkeye’s doing a tour like Lou just did, you’ll be able to say ‘I saw him when…'”

Hmmmm… Maybe she’s serious and it’s not just some singer she’s got a crush on after seeing him once in Edmonton? (She had earlier admitted to me that she tends to do that sometimes!)  But now, it’s getting later in the day and once we’ve fulfilled our conference obligations, we get the hotel concierge to help us figure out what we should do – we could take a bus to Waterloo but have no way to get back (unless we happen to find someone driving back to TO), paying a cab a lump sum but that would be WAY too expensive.  I even ask the concierge what time he gets off and if he owns a car/wants to go to a concert? No dice. Sophie wants to rent a car and I have to admit this is probably the best option. But another catch – she doesn’t drive which is why she’s so insistent about getting someone to go with her. “At all?” I ask, seeing maybe an ulterior motive for why she wants me to go so badly. “Okay Jason, here’s the deal. If you say you’ll drive to the concert, I’ll pay for the car rental. I’ll pay for the gas.  I’ll pay for your ticket to the concert. I’ll buy you a beer when we get there. And I swear, you will not regret this!”

Holy crap, I think – she’s willing to spend somewhere north of a hundred bucks for a $7 concert. Yep, she’s serious all right! I finally give in and agree to go with her. By now, it’s past 6pm and all downtown car rental locations are closed. (I’m secretly glad because one of the reasons I was so resistant is that I was nervous about having to drive in downtown Toronto and also on the 401 in a rental car.  Up until then, driving in Calgary once as part of a long wedding procession was the biggest driving challenge I’d faced. Otherwise, my experience was limited to dirt roads and “Regina Rush Hour” ie. three cars at a stop light at 5 p.m.)

We catch a shuttle to the airport where the car rental agencies are still open. She rents a car no problem and we head off – for Hamilton. Oops, wrong turn immediately after leaving the airport. Finally get to a gas station and get straightened around. Hit the highway and the 401 (with a line from the Tragically Hip running through my head: “You don’t fuck with the 401”) is everything I’d heard – 120kph is the average speed, people are whipping past me even as I do that, the traffic is super heavy, tons of semis (which I’ve since learned that people in Ontario call “transports”) even on a Saturday night and when we finally get to Waterloo, I somehow manage to miss the proper exit – twice! – and have to keep backtracking.

We’re not even sure exactly what time the concert starts and it’s now 10pm. Neither of us say it but there’s a good chance this whole adventure will lead to us (maybe) just catching the encore.  Or worse, turning around when we get there because the concert is over.

Finally finally finally, we get to the Jane Bond Cafe (to my memory, a small house converted into a pub/hangout-type place with seating for maybe 50?  Someone who knows it can correct me or expand a bit.) Some performance artist from Montreal is on stage talking about masturbation and why men should have breasts and other similar topics. “What have I gotten myself into if this is the opening act?” I remember thinking, still a fairly sheltered prairie boy (unlike the well-educated world traveler I have become six short years later! )

I’m hoping she’s the opening act but who knows? I go up to the bar to ask but Sophie doesn’t come with me.  I’m already a bit steamed thinking this whole trip was for nothing and this makes me even madder.  Now she’s embarrassed of me or something?

I order a beer and ask “Has Hawkeye played yet?”.

“No, he’s up next,” the bartender replies, looking at me strangely.

I look back and Sophie is standing by a pillar, just sort of staring at me.  She’s probably PO’ed, thinking that my hesitation about whether to come or not means we missed the concert.  I smile and give her a thumbs-up to show that Hawkeye is still to come.

As I sip my beer, I look around at the crowd in the packed venue.  Mostly college-aged kids filling every seat in the house.  The performance artist finishes and after a brief intermission where people shuffle around, buy more drinks and the room gets even more full if that’s possible, Hawkeye comes out on stage (such as it is – not even a raised platform at the front of the room if I remember correctly) and introduces himself.  “Hello, my name is Hawksley Workman…”

I’m carrying my camera (film, not digital in those days).  This is a photo of what he looked like that night:

And it hits me – why Sophie didn’t join me at the bar, why the bartender looks at me funny when I ask if Hawkeye had played yet.  Hawksley was standing at the bar right beside me and probably even heard me!  Sophie held back
because she was too intimidated to come near her idol so I was left to bask in my own naivety (as usual.)

I don’t remember what songs he played first – I think it was “Maniacs” – but from the first notes, I was like “whoa! Sophie wasn’t lying. This guy is amazing.” The theatrics of early David Bowie. The originality of Lou Reed. The vocal range of Freddie Mercury. The romanticism of Sinatra. All rolled into one.

I’d never heard of him before but the assembled college kids in the overflowing cafe obviously knew Hawksley well. They sang along to every word and he often stopped singing to let the crowd carry the tune. He went off on wild tangents about the stars and his father, make-up and exit signs, cellular phones and silence. Sophie pointed out her favourite song “Don’t Be Crushed” when he played it and I was taken by “Safe and Sound” which perfectly captured for me the feeling I often get on a long drive at nightfall on the prairies with Shea in the passenger side asleep beside me.

Magic – there’s no other word. He finished and to top it off, Sophie ended up bumping into somebody she knew from Edmonton and I still remember their exchange.

Sophie: “Isn’t that wild that we’d bump into each other here at this show a million miles from Edmonton?”

Him: “Well, when you think about it, not really.  You and I are similar ages, we have similar tastes, we have similar backgrounds.  Of course we’re going to bump into each other – it’s not as big of a coincidence as it seems.”

(As somebody who’s really interested in the concept of coincidences, that’s stuck with me.)

So anyhow, we sat and had a drink with him and his friends, gaining entry into this tight knit group of people. We left at closing, me buying the Hawksley CD on the way out. We listened to it all the way home over and over (thanks, rental car with full options!) and even the fact that we get totally lost trying to get back to downtown Toronto to drop off the car (if we’d gone directly, I think we would’ve been okay. But Sophie’s friends gave us “shortcut” directions which are probably great on a weekday to avoid all traffic but not so good at 3am in the dark with no real map in the car) and we ended up driving around till 6am, stopping at more than one gas station and/or doughnut shop to get directions. But this only served to prolong the night (plus I didn’t care – Sophie had to work at 9am, I didn’t!)

Since then, I’ve seen Hawksley probably a half a dozen times at various venues – fairly intimate venues like the Aeolian Hall in London and the Exchange in Regina to big folk festival and concert hall settings.  It’s always great but I think of a friend who talked about the thrill of going to see a movie “blind” – having heard no publicity or reviews, good or bad, and what a thrill that can be if the film turns out to be a good one.  That’s how I first saw Hawksley Workman – I had no preconceived notions (you’d think Sophie’s raves would’ve influenced me but until he stepped on stage, I honestly thought I was just being a chauffeur.)

In the end, simply amazing!

Happy Mother's Day – To Shea, From Jason (and Oscar too!)

Dude, What if the Universe Was a Molecule in Another Massive Mega-Verse?

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Friday Fun Link – The Hollywood Librarian: A Documentary (May 11, 2007)

“Ann Seidl’s full-length feature documentary, The Hollywood Librarian: A Look at Librarians on Film, will premiere at the ALA Annual Conference
in Washington, D.C., on June 22. The film shows the realities of
21st-century librarianship, including stereotyping, censorship and
intellectual freedom, and the impact of librarians on society.”


How good does this film look?  Wow.  There are a couple  other clips on YouTube about the movie if you click on the embedded vidoe above then look under “Related” to the right of the video.

(via ALA Direct newsletter)

The Price of A Gallon

Driving into pre-natal class tonight, I realised that we've spent more money commuting to the class in the last few weeks than we did actually registering for the class.  Gasoline is still one of the cheapest liquids available for purchase but yet another recent jump in Regina (to $1.17 a litre I think) means that summer's almost here.  Funny how gas prices always seems to jump in summer…

The Price of a Gallon: 47 liquids compared

A British list of liquid prices

Gizmodo breaks it down to eight essential liquids

We Interrupt This Blog For A Farm Report

We interrupt our regular tech/library/baby-related news for an agricultural report.  Heard on the news tonight that it is the 100th Anniversary of Marquis Wheat, an early-maturing hybrid that is pretty much the entire reason that Saskatchewan is known as the bread basket of Canada.  They're doing a bunch of special celebrations at the Experimental Farm in my hometown of Indian Head including planting one plot using 1907 technology. (Oh, here's something I didn't know – the inventor, Charles Saunders, was from London, Ontario.)

Facebook Embarrassments

I was talking to a friend who refuses to join Facebook.  They said that part of the reason they didn't want to join was how competitive it seemed: “I have 46 friends.”  “I have 87 friends.”  “I have 99 friends.” 

And what's the first line of my Feliciter article about Facebook?  “I have exactly 159 friends online.” 

In my defense, I was trying to illustrate the power of Facebook to link disparate groups – I have friends from high school, undergrad, grad school, professional colleagues.  Plus probably 1/3 (?) of those friends are people I've never met in real life but who friended me because I created a group for people from Saskatchewan (the first on Facebook – yay me!) and blatantly invited anyone who joined the group to friend me. 

This was back when I first joined Facebook a year ago and not a lot of other people I knew were on there so it was more of a way to have something to look at when I logged in. 

Now that I have lots of “real” friends on Facebook, I actually regret having so many “Facebook friends” and sometimes think of blocking them or un-friending them.  But that seems very un-Saskatchewan of me somehow.

Plus I may or may not been un-friended for the first time as well (that I know of.)  Facebook doesn't notify you if someone you add never adds you or if someone who has added you as a friend later removes you. 

But I was paging through one of the many UWO FIMS groups' member lists the other day, I saw someone I thought was already a friend with a “Add To Friends” link beside their photo. 

Hmm, what to do?  Did I just mistakenly think I'd added them?  If they dropped me, do I dare risk the humiliation of re-adding them?  Part of me hopes they did de-friend me so I can send an add request just to see what they do (yes, I know that would be verging dangerously close to that guy who sends 50 Add requests to someone without getting the message, “We were never friends in real life, we'll never be friends on Facebook.”)

The friend I mentioned above related another funny story – two friends had a massive falling out but never dropped each other as Facebook friends.  Then one day, one of them got an invite to a party that the other was having.  “Oh, I guess we're friends again!” the person thought happily and responded that they would attend. 

“You stupid ass,” the reply came back.  “I just invited everybody in my Facebook friends list.  We are *definitely* not friends again.”  Ooops!

Oh, one other embarrassment.  I started a group called “Saskatchewan Mafia” and can't believe that its grown to nearly 1500 members.  I put in a bit of time (but not a lot) changing the group's default photo, adding questions for discussion, etc.  But soon after I started my group, a group dedicated solely to the topic of “bunny hugs” (hoodies to anyone outside Saskatchewan) was started and has grown to nearly 5000 (!) members.  Isn't that crazy?  It would be un-Saskie of me to be competitive (I joined that group too – it's hilarious.  All kind of anecdotes about the reactions former Saskies get when they say “bunny hug”) but unreal that they're lapping me by so much.

So that's my daily Facebook-themed post.  In other news from the real world, I'm going to be a father in less than a month. 

Here's my impression of me during the last eight months:

Here's my impression of Shea during the last eight months:

(The tongue sticking out during month two represents morning sickness.  “What's that Shea?”  Ooof

Facebook's Dark Side (And Some Thoughts Why I Blog)

I'd seen this before but a friend sending it to me last week inspired me to get it up on the blog.  It's a Flash video making some conspiracy theorist claims about Facebook – the people who run it having CIA ties, the abuse of its data-mining abilities and so on.

I'm not sure what to think – it could be true, it could be time for somebody to put their tinfoil hat back on.  But the way I look at it, if there is
a secret cabal controlling the world, they're operating at such a
higher level than my day-to-day reality, that it's as if they don't
exist anyhow (if that makes sense.)



I especially like how they claim these shady links to the Department of
Defense when really, that's who created the Internet and so by this person's
rationale,
everything on the Internet is a military-industrial complex
conspiracy (including this blog.  Watch out!  I'm tracking you!) 

Okay, it's a bit more blatant than that when some of Facebook's top executives have direct DND connections but at the same time, you do ultimately have control about how much (or how little information) you put up on that site.

I have Facebook friends who have their first name, their last initial and not a whole lot more.  That's not the spirit of the place (in my opinion) but again, if you worry about how your information is being used, go ahead and make it a bit harder for the Illuminati to track you if you think it helps.

But other than perhaps listing your political and religious beliefs, I'm not sure if it's something to really worry about.  The Flash video says stuff like:

“With
Facebook, you can see people's favourite books.  Or the Top 10 Movies
in any University community.”  Oooh, look out, the CIA is going to
dicovery that people actually like Tom Cruise and hate JK Rowling!



And of couse, there's the fact that anything will sound ominous with a deadpan delivery and some creepy background music. 


I think there's a deeper issue of how willing (young and/or tech savvy) people are to put up personal details online which is something that came up a lot at the Sask Library Association conference this weekend.

I get called on this by friends all the time.  Obviously, if you're reading this, you know that I'm someone who has decided to be fairly open about my background, my interests, and my personal beliefs online.  I don't know why teenagers do it but it made me wonder, why do I do this?

I think there are a few reasons:
– I believe that society, as a whole, is better when you are open with any and all information rather than secretive.  This can probably backfire and there are times when discretion is required but I think people err on the side of keeping information private and guarded too easily and too often. 

– I believe in a collaborative society and part of that deal is that you have to put your own information out there if you're going to be accessing other people's information – their blogs, their photosets on Flickr, etc.  Peer-to-peer networking, in all its forms, makes for a better world.

– I want my blog and Facebook profile and other outlets to be interesting and there are a couple easy ways to do this:

1) talk a lot about other people (the “this is what I think of Classmate X, this is how I feel about co-worker Y” school of blogging)

2) talk a lot about yourself (also know as the Golden Rule of Writing: “Write What You Know”).

I choose the second option (for the most part) because besides being the subject I know best, the responsibility for what I write, if I say too much, only (hopefully) comes back on me. 

I know there could be people whose opinion of me changes because they know my political or religious views or even because of some off-hand comment I make on this blog about some little thing.  But I think most of the people reading this are educated, critical-thinkers who are able to deal very well with differing viewpoints and worldviews. 

Here's a semi-related anecdote to this whole topic.  I bumped into Michelle D. at SLA and we were standing at the registration desk when a classmate of mine from high school who works in the Sask library community came up.  “What was Jason like in high school?” Michelle asked.  “I was a nerd!” I blurted.  “No, not really, Jason was pretty much the same as he is now – somebody who was always friendly and got along with everybody.” 

It's rare that you get some kind of true insight into other people perceive you so that was kind of nice to hear.  And to bring it full circle, I think that's the final reason I feel comfortable with being so open about myself online.  I hope that I'm secure enough with myself and who I am that I don't mind being open about that via my online presence.

Okay, I gotta go find out what all these strange charges on my VISA are…

Friday Fun Link – Tag Clouds for US Presidential Debates (May 4, 2007)

Oh yeah, and it's Friday so time for the weekly FFL (I almost forgot!)

Tag-clouds for the first debates of the Democratic and Republican primaries. (via MetaFilter)