Music Monday – “Just take a look at these crow’s feet/Just look/Sitting on the prettiest eyes”

We got back from our trip to Calgary last night but after unpacking and doing a few things around the house, I didn’t get around to posting.  But I’ve decide to backdate this post on Tuesday to yesterday so I can do a Music Monday post as it connects pretty directly to our trip.

We’d gone to Calgary for two family events – a 50th Wedding Anniversary on Friday night and then a 50th Birthday party for a cousin on a different branch of the family tree on Saturday night.

I was asked to give a toast to our family’s milestone anniversaries at the birthday celebration and, barring a few ad-libs, this is what I said:

Hi, my name is Jason Hammond.  I am Susan’s cousin and I was going to joke that I’m her favourite cousin but I know that would offend a lot of people in attendance here tonight.  So I’ll just say I’m her favourite cousin.  Who’s male.  And who lives in Regina.  And who’s between the age of 35 and 40!

I’d like to thank Aunt Greta for asking me to say a few words in honour of the various milestone anniversaries various members of the Hammond family are celebrating this year and most specifically, the 50th wedding anniversary of her brother Ken & his wife, Eileen which was celebrated last night by many in the Hammond family who have gathered together this weekend.

When I was thinking of what to say to honour such an accomplishment, I thought back to my wife’s and my own wedding reception, eight years ago in 2003.  I have to begin by explaining that technically, Shea and I had three weddings!

We planned to get married on the beach in Mexico but to simplify paperwork issues, we’d gotten legally married by a Justice of the Peace here in Calgary which is where we were living at the time.  A month later, we had a ceremony on the beach in Mexico with a small group of family and friends.  Then we had a reception in my wife’s hometown later that summer for everyone who couldn’t join us in Mexico.  As we all know, most men have trouble remembering one anniversary so I don’t recommend putting yourself in a spot where you have to remember three!

Now,  I think the bar’s open so you may find out otherwise as the night goes on.  But normally my wife and I aren’t big dancers.  For that reason, we decided that instead of having a traditional First Dance as Bride & Groom, we would have our DJ play a song called “Prettiest Eyes” by a British group called The Beautiful South.  This very touching song tracks the development of a relationship with each verse covering a different milestone – from a couple meeting and falling in love, moving in together, and slowly growing older together through all of life’s joys and struggles.

For our first dance, we asked every couple in the audience to join us on the dance floor and the song began to play.  The trick was that after every verse we had our MC ask people who had been married for a certain period of time to *leave* the dance floor, naturally starting with “those who have been married for one year or less.”  This got Shea and I off the hook immediately!

The next verse was five years or less which saw a great outflux as many of our newly married friends (as well as one 80-something couple who had recently re-married!) joined us on the sidelines.  The next verses were for couples married for ten years, twenty years and so on.

As the song played, I realized with some horror that we hadn’t really planned this out very well as we hadn’t thought who, or indeed if anyone, would be left after the final anniversary, the 40th, was called.  But after the MC called for the couples who had celebrated their 30th anniversary to leave the dance floor, I was happy to see that it had worked out perfectly – there was one couple from my wife’s side and one couple from mine left dancing.

That was Ken and Eileen.

Shea and I happily joined the two remaining couples on the dance floor and our silly plan to get us out of a First Dance actually ended up working out better than we could possibly have imagined.  The symbolism of us joining two couples who had lasted forty years together – and now fifty in Ken and Eileen’s case – was not lost on us and we can only hope to reach the same milestone ourselves.

We have lots of inspiration as we look around the crowd gathered here tonight – Mike & Deana are at five years, Susan and Bill are celebrating their 20th, Wes & Lynda Banbury are at 30 years, my own parents will celebrate their own 40th anniversary this year as will Donna and Paul.  I’m sure there are many others at or close to symbolic anniversaries as well.

For all of us who are married, it all begins with our wedding and so I’d also like to take this opportunity to welcome Jessi to the family.  As most of us know, her and Shane are getting married later this summer in Hawaii and beginning their own journey together.  I will offer one piece of advice – if you decide to have two…or three weddings…make sure the next one happens during the winter months and I guarantee a lot more Canadian cousins will show up!

Anyhow, to pull it back to our reason we celebrate tonight – congrats to Susan on her 50th Birthday and also to her and Bill as they approach their 20th wedding anniversary.

I propose a toast to our family’s many milestone anniversaries.

This song, which I’ve posted before, long before I had Music Mondays, is a favourite (although I don’t draw too much attention to the fact that one of the great appeals of The Beautiful South for me is their super sweet melodies are often mixed with sarcastic lyrics such as “And I only write it down/Just in case that you die”!  Yep, that’s part of the refrain in Shea’s and my first dance song!)

 

Music Monday – “I used to come here when I was six/When everything hurt and I felt sick/There is something about the colder air/That made me feel better than anywhere”

We’re off to Calgary from Wednesday until early next week so it may be another blog holiday depending on how busy we are and what my Internet access is like at our various ports of call.

In the meantime, here’s a song from one of my favourite artists I discovered when we lived in Cowtown.  Tariq was one of the featured performers at a fundraiser for Amnesty International chapter and he absolutely blew me away – great songs, great lyrics and a great performer with just an acoustic guitar and a microphone.

Unfortunately, partly because he’s an unsigned indy artist and partly because he goes by the somewhat common name, Tariq, it’s pretty hard to find clips of him online.  Below is the only song of his I could find on YouTube and there’s a few more on CBC3 (check out “Basement” which is one of my favourites and the song which is quoted as the title of this post.)

Happy Mother’s Day!

Apparently I don’t have any pictures of me with my mom on my computer. So instead, here’s one of Pace and his Grandma when we stopped by the Indian Head Union Hospital on our way out of town during a recent visit to Grandpa and Grandma’s.

Technically, my mom “retired” from nursing a few years ago (I swear I attended a party and everything!) but sometimes you wonder if she’ll ever retire.  She loves her job, the patients and the contribution she makes to the community (hmmm, I didn’t go to nursing school but library school doesn’t seem so far removed from that value system at all!)

I’ve always taken a great deal of pride in that, it doesn’t matter which person from Indian Head or area that I bump into – a new guy on my rec hockey team, someone I meet at the library, a person I’m interviewing for a magazine story – if they’ve spent any time at the Indian Head Union Hospital, they speak highly of my mom.

The guy who showed up to play hockey with us was the funniest.  Once we figured out that he grew up in a nearby town which led to talk of my parents and what they did, he goes “Oh yeah, I remember your mom.  I had a really bad chest infection so I got admitted the hospital for a week.  Your mom was the only nurse who wouldn’t let me go outside to smoke!  Probably a good thing when you think about it.  She’s could be a hard-ass but she’s a great nurse!”

I couldn’t say it better myself.  Happy Mother’s Day, Mom.  Love you!

Saturday Snap – Katepwa Beach Flooding

With the amount of moisture we’ve had for the past couple winters and last summer as well, much of Saskatchewan is experiencing the worst flooding we’ve had in forty years.  Katepwa Lake, north of Indian Head, where our family has a cottage is no exception.  Last weekend, Shea, Pace and I were out to do some sandbagging with some family members and then with some of the cottage owners near us as well.

After we finished, we took a  drive around the four lakes that make up the Calling Lakes (including Katepwa) to see the extent of the damage.  The photo below is from Katepwa Beach.

Normally the “Unsupervised Swimming Area” sign is on a grassy area.  Beyond that, there’s a walkway, a drop down to a wide beach (you can just make out one of the boards that normally divides the walkway from the beach) and THEN the water starts.  Or at least where it’s *supposed* to start.

(That link to the Calling Lakes story has a photo of what Katepwa Beach normally looks like.)

 

 

 

Friday Fun Link – Rate My Politician

There are all sorts of sites that allow you to rate various things connected to your life – your teachers, your professors, your workplace, your doctor, your neighbours (oops, appears to no longer exist).  And now, a site that allows you to rate your politicians as well.

Most of these sites are based on anonymous ratings so you have to take them with a grain of salt as the people most inspired to write a review will be those who either felt really bad about or really good about who/what they’re rating.  I suspect those who had an average experience aren’t likely to take the time to write anything.

But I do think there’s some legitimacy to these sites, especially when you look at the ratings in aggregate.  When I did Web 2.0 instruction with our branch librarians in Southeast Regional Library, I would bring up RateMDs.com to talk about how web sites like these were putting power directly in people’s hands.

Early on, one librarian asked me to look up a specialist who had done her recent surgery and which she’d had a really negative experience with.  Many of the reviews were similar but always along the lines of “This doctor has a terrible bedside manner but is an excellent surgeon.”

After looking through these reviews, the branch librarian said “If I’d known that ahead of time, perhaps my experience after surgery wouldn’t have been so bad.”  (Of course, in the “grain of salt” category, another librarian revealed that a bunch of the town councilors had gone on the site to give an average-at-best doctor really high ratings in an effort to keep him in the community and also to possibly draw new residents to the town!)

So again, while you have to look at these sites with a critical eye, they can help give you a more detailed picture of the people and places you interact with on a regular basis.

It will be interesting to see what a site like RateMyPolitician, especially since it deals with such a sensitive, polarized topic, might develop into.

Election Post-Mortem (Literally)

So I’ve had a couple days to let the election results sink in and I thought I’d do a few quick hits on various topics coming out of that history-making day.  As I posted on Facebook immediately after, it was real mixed emotions after the results were confirmed.  Elation.  And puking.

Elation in that the NDP exceeded pretty much anyone’s wildest expectations but puking in that the Conservatives got a majority. I’m trying to remain optimistic that the country won’t asplode and the sun will continue to come up every day. But it’s a scary time.

Some have floated theories (and I apologize as I didn’t keep a lot of the links for articles and blogs I’ve been reading the past few days) that the only reason Harper was so paranoid and secretive and anti-democratic was that it was how he reacted to being in a minority situation and that he may actually moderate now that he has his wished-for majority.

Further to this, there is speculation that Harper’s ultimate goal in life is to switch Canada’s natural governing party from the Liberals to the Conservatives and, after focusing his whole career on this dream and being so close (though ironically, thanks as much to the NDP as the Cons), he wouldn’t blow his chance to hammer the final nail in their coffin with an orgy of right-wing craziness for the next four years.

Instead, his goal will be to sllllloooooowwwwwlllllllyyyyy put policies in place so that the movement rightward is almost imperceptible.

(Of course, the other side of the argument is speculation about just how bad Harper might be now that he has a majority – something I don’t even want to contemplate but as someone posted on Facebook or Twitter – “If you’re poor or female or a minority or not in a Conservative riding, good luck for the next four years!”  An American on MetaFilter, trying to put our election in perspective, asked “Is this like when George Bush was re-elected but for Canada?” and someone else replied, “No, it’s like if Cheney had gotten in!”)

Living in the Bubble
You don’t have to read back very far in this blog to see that I’m a huge believer in the power of social media in various realms including the political world.  (And I still am – when every major newspaper in the country save one endorses the Conservatives -after all their bullshit the past few years – you really can’t count on your mainstream media for balance anymore.)  But I honestly thought social media would have way more of an impact in this election than it ultimately did.

Unfortunately though, when 90% of your Facebook friends turn their profile pics to a picture of the Orange Crush logo, that doesn’t necessarily translate into 90% of the population doing so!  And the same with Twitter.  Sometimes you felt like it was only hyper-partisans jawing back and forth and journalists either sitting on the sidelines trying to figure out what it all meant (or trying to raise their own follower counts by injecting their own pithy observations.)  This “shift which hasn’t-quite-happened” feeling about mainstream vs. social media is summed up really well by Calgary-based journalist, Chris Turner, in a MetaFilter comment.

Polarization
Some think this result portends the beginnings of a two-party state in Canada.  I really hope not.  I like that people have multiple options (and the tie-breaker for me in the elation/puking divide is that Elizabeth May got a seat for the Greens!)  But the reality is that two-party states are almost an inevitable result of having a first-past-the-post voting system so it’s a big question what Canada will get first – two-party system or electoral reform to better represent the plethora of views out there.  (And do you think the Liberals are kicking themselves for not implementing it when they had the chance?  But to use a very relevant metaphor in my province right now, you never expect your house to be the one to sink under flood waters.  Until it does.)  Speaking of plethora of views, I am seriously considering running as a candidate for the Pirate Party in the next election.  Seriously.  (Er, just as long as I can still vote NDP!)

Groundhog Day
Someone else on Twitter or Facebook (ToF for short) posted a question asking, “In hindsight, would you give up all the NDP’s gains if it meant we were back to a minority situation and the Cons didn’t have full power?”  I hate to admit that I’m a bad NDP’er but my initial answer was “yes – that was so much better.”  But after a couple days reflection (and a couple very warm, sunny days too which calmed my mood!) I think that, this result, as frightening as it is could actually bode really well for the future.  The NDP are well-positioned to possibly make the next leap to the Big Chair in four years, the Liberals can try to re-build, the Greens are in. And Conservatives seem to have a history of pushing things too far for Canadians comfort zones when they do get in power.

Are the Conservatives Political Geniuses?
Between-election attacks ads and micro-targeting specific ridings while virtually ignoring all others says they are.  Getting less than 40% of the vote and only winning a number of ridings due to vote splitting says they aren’t.  Taking three tries to finally get a majority also says they aren’t.  But I do think the other parties will have to pay attention to some of the techniques they used and improve on them.

A Radical Idea for the Liberals Re-Boot
Ralph Goodale has been Deputy Leader of the Liberals and is once again acting as interim leader while the party regroups.  He’s one of the most respected, intelligent, accomplished politicians you’ll find in any party – as determined by both his colleagues and his constituents.  But he’s basically admitted he’ll never be Liberal Leader because he doesn’t speak French.  But now, with the NDP firmly established in Quebec, why not have the Liberal party forego Quebec (for the time being), put Goodale in the leader’s chair and focus on rebuilding.  I seriously can’t imagine what attacks the Cons could launch on Goodale beyond “he doens’t speak French” (which many in Western Canada would see as a positive.)

Speaking of, a lot of folks see Justin Trudeau as the next great hope for the Libs but he’s still quite inexperienced and also, his name is a big strike against him in the West.  But maybe he’d make a great deputy leader?  He could spend four years being groomed and no matter what happens next election, with Trudeau focusing on Quebec and Goodale working to build the west, the Liberals could rise again.  (Goodale said as much in a post-election interview – admitting that his party had long ignored the west and it had caught up with them.)

Young Candidates
Lots has been made about the relative youth and inexperience of the new NDP MP’s.  Well, I personally like the idea of a House of Commons that’s more reflective of society as a whole – with some University students and so on.   My own MP, Andrew Scheer’s sum total of experience before being elected as far as I know, was working for the Reform/Canadian Alliance/CRAP/Conservative parties in various capacities, being a student while working as a waiter in a local restaurant and briefly working in an insurance agency.  Not too far from the resumes of many of the new NDP MP’s when you think about it.

Pulling the Vote
In a recent post about why I thought people get elected, I hinted that I don’t think door knocking/phone banks/leaflet drops are as effective as some folks think they are.  Now, I admit, I’m coming to this opinion as a political neophyte (at least in the sense of being directly involved – I’ve always been an armchair observer.)   I’d rank my political knowledge as a 6 or 7 out of 10 while most of the folks I know who are more heavily involved or have longer histories are 8’s, 9’s, 10’s and there are probably a few that would be 11/10 if we’re using the Spinal Tap scale. So I don’t doubt the wisdom they bring.  But I also wonder if sometimes people get so focused on how things have always been done that they don’t acknowledge that those techniques may not pay the same dividends they used to in different times?

A recent article (in the Globe I think – once again, sorry for no linky!) basically said the same thing – focus groups conducted immediately after the election found that the majority of voters, across the political spectrum, voted for the leader as their main justification – not the local candidate, not a policy plank, not who had the nicest brochure.  (Showing my ignorance, I missed the importance of the Leader completely in my list of reasons why people get elected! 😉 )

A lack of ground-game obviously doesn’t hurt in some cases – the Conservatives basically refused to show up across Alberta and Saskatchewan, yet, by doing the bare minimum, got elected in huge majorities.

And it’s not just one party that can pull this off. Quebec went almost completely orange with very little to no party machinery on the ground, candidates now being taken to task for not having stepped foot in their riding, etc.  If you can catch a wave, have a charismatic leader, get great coverage from the traditional media, all of those things will likely do more to ensure you have a winning campaign than all of the hundreds of volunteers hours put together.

Plus, there’s a theory that we’re moving away from people accepting an interrupt-driven lifestyle.  People no longer want to pick up the phone when you call them, they want to seek out a web site on their own time.  They don’t want you banging on their door or dropping off a flier as they’ll hear about your campaign on the evening news or in tomorrow’s paper.

Low Information Voters
Another part of the reason pulling the vote doesn’t work (IMHO) is that your volunteers are expending huge amounts of time contacting people, many of whom simply.  don’t.  care.  Or already know who they’re going to vote for and aren’t going to change their mind.  Or aren’t going to vote because they forget it was election day (hello to my most recent hairdresser who said “I wouldn’t voted NDP but forgot all about it.”)  Saskatchewan, which was the birthplace of the party that led to the NDP, can’t even elect one orange member (hell, even Alberta did that.)  Short of running Snooki as a candidate, what would the NDP need to do to get that hair dresser so interested that she’d go vote?  (Snooki cracks aside, I hope I’m not coming across as some intellectual snob here.  I honestly want to figure out how to reach low information/low interest voters where they are, not bring them to where I am.  To put it another way, there are those who want to “raise the bar” for everyone and hope they make informed, educated choices.  Others, like me, want to go to where the bar is, have a shot, shoot the shit and convince everybody there that, fuck it, why not go vote?)

Vote-Splitting/Strategic Voting
A lot was made of vote-splitting and “strategic” voting.  Again, many of my more politically knowledgeable friends point out that “strategic voting” is stupid – you should always vote your conscience and let the chips fall where they may.  Again, here I disagree but think people need to be really smart – if you’re going to be strategic, you need to have a really good sense of what’s happened historically.  This analysis of Project Democracy recommendations shows an almost 100% accuracy for guiding people who did want to vote strategically rather than their preferred choice.  Unfortunately, I think, especially in Ontario, the NDP “Orange Crush” hype got enough people voting NDP that would’ve otherwise voted Liberal – either out of preference or habit – that Ontario became the place where the Cons got their majority.

Reading
I do the vast majority of my reading on the bus to and from work every day.  For the past month, Facebook, Twitter, various blogs, the Globe & Mail have made my iPhone whatever the Mac equivalent of “Crackberry” is.  So I’m glad to be able to put away my news apps once again and get through some books again.  But yeah, read through this MetaFilter thread for a lot of interesting back and forth analysis as the election happened.

What’s The Most Heartbreaking Moment of Your Life?

An AskReddit question that’s a hard one to read.  Make sure you have Kleenex nearby!

Regularly Scheduled Blogging Will Resume Soon (Jason’s Still in a Post-Election Funk)

In the meantime

Music Monday – “Follow me/Don’t follow me/I’ve got my spine/I’ve got my orange crush”

Today’s the day.  Go Orange!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYWf-lrnfs

A Couple Final Election Thoughts

When I watch sports, I tend to be someone who, when my team is down, thinks “there’s no way we can win!” and when they’re up, thinks “there’s no way we can lose!” rather than being somebody who knows that the momentum will go back and forth and anything can happen right up until the final buzzer sounds.

This election campaign has had many parallels.  At the start of this campaign, I thought “well, the NDP will do okay but we’ll likely end up where we were before – maybe gaining a seat or two here and losing a seat or two there.”

My standard line to people who said “This is a wasted election – nothing will change” wasn’t that the NDP would find a groundswell of support in Quebec, the young and first-time voters which would see them challenging the Conservatives seemingly impenetrable lead.  Instead, I would say “Well, if we end up in the same spot – everything might change.  Harper might be forced out if he can’t obtain a majority.  Ignatieff will likely be tossed if he can’t return the Liberals to power.  And with Layton’s health issues, there’s a chance he may step aside as well.”

As it’s gone on and the polls have increasingly gone in the NDP’s favour, the “Orange Wave” has grown and this campaign has gone from “nothing will change” to “everything could change!”, I’ve gone from thinking “the score will remain 0-0” to struggling really hard not to allow myself to think that “wow – my team’s going to beat the other guys 10-9 in a shootout!”

Whatever happens tomorrow, it sounds like the NDP has already won.  But go vote.  And take your friends!