Throwback Thursday – #tbt – How Did I Get Here? – #4 – Travel

Not sure if I’ll end up blogging much when we’re in Mexico next week but I thought making “travel” #4 in this series would be a good way to head into our holiday either way.

The funny part is that my love of travel actually starts from a weird piece of family trivia – I was born in 1973 and that happens to be the year my maternal grandparents moved from Saskatchewan to Kelowna, BC.

Of course that sounds like they were trying to get away from my crying, pooping self (and maybe they were?) but in the end, it ended up working out as I got the experience of traveling to BC at least once or twice a year for pretty much every year of my early life. As a bonus, most of these were car trips (and even the occasional train trip!) instead of by plane which meant all sorts of unique experiences and adventures during the two-day drive.

My parents both loved travel so growing up, our family visited a number of places across North America – from Vancouver for Expo ’86 to Quebec when they turned an invite to a family wedding in Winnipeg into an extended holiday, from as far north as La Ronge, Saskatchewan to as far south as Florida.  Again, most of these trips were long driving trips instead of short(er) plane rides which meant we got to experience places in a different way than if you breeze through in a bus or fly over them in a plane.

One of our most memorable trips wasn’t in a car though – we had a two week vacation in Hawaii when I was grade five that was probably my first trip that felt like I was going somewhere completely new, exciting and foreign.

As I got older, I had high school friends who had been even more adventurous – one had moved to Germany to repeat her Grade 12 year but in German (a language she wasn’t super fluent in) and one who was a couple years older and moved to Japan to teach English after finishing University.

Partly inspired by those two friends, when an opportunity came up for a semester exchange to England through the U of R, I applied and was fortunate to grab one of only five spots available.

I only half-jokingly refer to that four month exchange “the single best four month stretch” of my life.

Part of it was how everything was so similar and yet so different in England (and Europe where I also got to spend time with a week in Paris before school started and a weekend in each of Edinburgh and Amsterdam arranged through the school.)  Part of it was how the college I went to had a huge international exchange program with many countries so I got to live, study and interact with people not just from the United States but people from Japan, Germany and various other countries.

(As a side note, a friend I met on my exchange who was from Chicago was the person who first planted the seed of professional librarianship as a viable career in my mind.  So traveling has obviously had a major influence on who I’ve become in an indirect way as well.)

My early experience with and love of travel is probably part of the reason I felt comfortable picking up stakes and moving to Calgary with Shea after she graduated from nursing and later, moving to London Ontario to complete my Masters.

Since doing my MLIS, a lot of my travel has been to various cities for professional conferences and to all-inclusives for personal reasons.

I know going on all-inclusive beach vacations isn’t widely regarded as “real” travel but I think of it like librarians think of reading.  We tend to believe all reading is good reading and I believe the same is true of travel.  Some people are like my friend who graduated high school in Scotland, moved to Australia then to Japan (coincidentally marrying the friend I mentioned earlier who had also moved to Japan!) and had all sorts of wild adventures including hitchhiking in Afghanistan by herself and so on.  In terms of reading, she’s like the person who reads “War and Peace” or “Moby Dick”  On the other hand, someone who visits an all-inclusive is sort of like the person who reads James Patterson (and of course they’re likely reading it on the beach!)  Both are enjoyable, educational, and beneficial but in different ways.

In the end, travel has opened my eyes, made me more confident and made the world smaller.  It’s helped me be more understanding and helpful with the many people I work with every day in the library who are often travelers themselves, having moved to Canada from elsewhere.  And in three days, I’m fortunate that I’ll be traveling again! 🙂

10 Things That Make You A Bad All-Inclusive Guest

Six Abandoned Caesars

I had the idea for this list after a couple experiences at the Moon Palace last year and in researching it further, I see I’m not the only one with the idea.

So below is a list of my own observations but which overlaps in many ways with some of the articles I’ve found that cover the same topic.

  1. Treat the Workers Disrespectfully
    I mean, this applies in Canada as much as Cancun but I think it’s incredibly rude to treat service industry workers as subservient or worse.  Especially in all-inclusives, many employees are often working ten to twelve hours a day, six days a week for much less per hour than people doing comparable work in Canada would earn *plus* they are required to be happy and customer-focused at all times, even when they might want to strangle our fat, entitled faces. 😉
  2. Act Like You’re The Only One Who Paid To Be At The Resort
    Obviously a trip to any all-inclusive is going to set you back thousands of dollars.  But that doesn’t give you a right to think your trip is somehow more important than the hundreds of other guests on the resort who’ve paid a similar amount to be there or that you deserve special treatment or privileges just because you’re the star of your own show.  This manifests in numerous ways – from leaving your towel on multiple poolside and oceanfront chairs all day that “just in case” to getting loud or pushy if you have to wait in line for a restaurant to criticizing the smallest inconveniences for not meeting your exacting personal standards.
  3. Be The DJ
    Some of these examples are subsets of the “Thinking You’re More Important Than Everyone Else at the Resort” and this one happens to be part of the reason I had the idea for this list.  With the increasing prevalence of waterproof, wireless Bluetooth speakers *and* quality wifi at resorts, I’ve noticed more and more people who think it’s their right to  be the DJ, not just for their own small group but for everyone else in the vicinity.  Luckily, I’m a big music fan and most people tend to play music that I find appropriate for poolside lounging – country, reggae, classic rock – but it can still be frustrating, especially if the music is loud or in an area where you might expect quiet. (Many resorts designate one pool as a quieter/adults only one for instance.)
  4. Letting Your Kids Run Wild
    If there’s one thing on this list I’ve been guilty of, this is probably it.  Have my kids done cannonballs dangerously close to the people sitting at the swim-up bar?  Maybe…  Have they stood on the underwater chairs at the swim-up bar dancing?  Maybe…  Have they licked food on the buffet then put it back?  Er, no comment! 😉
  5. Hogging the Swim-Up Bar
    Speaking of swim-up bars, most only have a few seats but some people still treat them as not only “first-come, first served” but also “If I plant my butt here, I can stay as long as I want.”  Again, this is a balance thing – I’m not a fan of people getting to sit there for one drink then moving on.  But I’m not a fan of people staying there all day either.
  6. Peeing in the Pool
    This relates to the last point and the answer is “just no”!  (The ocean on the other hand…) 😉  And I won’t even get into pooping in the pool which is something I may or may not have had to deal with more than once when Sasha was little! 🙁
  7. Disrespect Others’ Space
    Again, this overlaps with the general theme of “thinking it’s all about you” and is another drawn from our experience at Moon Palace.  Shea and I were lounging in chairs that sit on the lip of the pool in a couple inches of water.  Down from us was a large group with a few different couples and their kids.  One mom took a ball and began playing “monkey in the middle” with her kids in the (unoccupied) area between their chairs and ours.  As they continued to play, they kept inching closer and closer to being right in front of us and, because they were playing “Monkey in the Middle” instead of straight catch, the odds that a wayward ball was going to hit us or splash us were much greater.  I was debating asking them to move back in front of their own chairs when the mom threw a ball that did hit Shea in the leg and splashed us both.  (We were *trying* to read so our books got wet as well.)  I would never admit to my lovely wife losing her shit on strangers or threatening to throw their ball in the ocean if they didn’t get back to their own space.  But I will say I was never more nervous than watching the mom and her kids tell her male companions, both bald, heavily muscled and tattooed and clearly UFC fans, what had happened. 😮
  8. Wasting Simply Because “I Paid For It”
    Some people take advantage of resorts that are all-inclusive by being incredibly wasteful with regards to food and drink and other services.  Taking mountains of food they can’t possibly eat at the buffet, ordering drinks they only take a sip of.  I’m not even much of a fan of leaving the AC on in your room all day so you get hit with a nice cool blast after a day at the beach.  (Now to be fair, since the resort we’re going to has an all-you-can-eat candy store as one of their “restaurants”, we’ve hatched a plan to empty all of the candy into a suitcase and try to smuggle it home when we leave!!!
  9. Not Enjoying The Moment
    This is a problem in our modern society and happens at restaurants, concerts and all-inclusives.  But it feels like more and more people are either taking pictures more with an eye to Instagram and Facebook then to creating their own memories.  Or people are taking detailed narrative videos of the buffet with an eye to monetizing YouTube videos (and as someone addicted to watching YouTube videos about the resort we’re going to plus who has uploaded my own “room walk-through” videos at previous resorts, I’m guilty of this one a bit too!)
  10. A Bad Review Is As Much A Reflection Of The Person Writing It As The Resort Being Reviewed
    You’ll sometimes hear people complaining at the resort to a certain degree but my biggest pet peeve is people who write heavily negative reviews when they get home after their trip.  Sometimes these complaints are legitimate but more often, I think it reflects poorly on the person writing it and their unrealistic expectations.  “I had to wait for a drink refill at the bar for FIVE minutes!”  “We slept in late so the maid only cleaned our room in the afternoon but not the morning.”  “It was too rainy while we were there!”  (These are all legitimate complaints I’ve seen in reviews by the way.)  Again, it’s a reflection of the person in so many cases.  I think of myself as an optimist and I feel that’s how I approach our trips – I’ve never really had a bad one (er, knock on wood) and have always found stuff to enjoy and even the things that might be negative turn out to be positive.  (“We got ripped off by a cabbie but oh well, he needs the extra $10 more than I do.” “I had an upset stomach all day?  I shouldn’t have eaten that hot pepper at the buffet last night and luckily science invented Imodium!”)

My son hogging a seat the swim-up bar with his grandma.

$100 Tequila Drink in Tequila, Mexico

It costs $100 but not because it’s expensive tequila in a small snifter!

 

Music Monday – “Everybody sour like a lemon tree/I’m just smiling down upon my enemies/Do this shit, I love it on the daily/You say you hate your job, but you’ll never leave, never leave”

Vacation” – Dirty Heads

Happy 40th Birthday, Shea!

It’s hard to believe that you and I have been together for more than half of your life.

Thanks for all the great times, good memories and two gorgeous kids.

I can’t wait to continue the birthday celebrations one week from today in Mexico!

Love you!!!

Saturday Snap – The Beard

Friday Fun Link – What If Everyone Forgot The Beatles But One Person?

This movie looks great:

 

Throwback Thursday – #tbt – How Did I Get Here? – #3 – Books

If I’m doing a list of the 10 things that had the strongest influence in who I’ve become at the midpoint of my life, it’s telling that the thing I jump to as the third most influential thing in my entire life, after family and after friends, is books.

In fact, I could probably do a specific list of 10 books that have influenced me in some significant way.  (Heck, I could probably do a list of 100 books that have done that!)

But the thing is, I don’t really know how I became such a book lover.

A big part of why I loved books is because my parents were both readers.  In addition to regular books (mostly nonfiction), I’ve already mentioned how dad would read the newspaper every single night.  My mom read a lot as well, mostly paperback fiction.

There are numerous studies that say that simply being raised *around* books helps improve literacy and that rings true because, although I remember them reading to me, I don’t remember my parents pushing reading or trying to make me that precocious kid who shows up in kindergarten knowing the entire alphabet front and backwards, writing their name in script and quoting Shakespeare before nap time! 😉

The early exposure to books and reading is also a big part of why I was a pretty good student from day one.  I’d go so far as to say that I was probably one of the smartest kids in my class throughout elementary school (not as big of an achievement as it sounds when you remember I’m in a pretty small town with only 40-50 kids in my grade.) 😉

I have some strong book & reading related memories that stand out from my early years:

* I don’t know when you switch from books with pictures (even just a few illustrations like Hardy Boys) to books without any pictures.  But I do remember the first time one of my best friends told me he’d read a paperback novel and I was like “Whoa – this guy just raised the bar!”)

* Sometime around grade five, I decided the best way to improve my intelligence was to read not just regular books but to read the dictionary.  One of the cool kids saw me doing this during silent reading and loudly blurted out “Are you reading the dictionary???” I quickly switched back to “normal” books the next day. 🙂

* In grade seven, I distinctly remember our homeroom teacher had a “race track” numbered from 1-15 on the back wall with each student having a cardboard car with their name on it.  He required us to read 10 books through the 10-month school year and if someone got to 15, he’d buy them a pop.  I managed to read over 45 and was well on my way to 60 at the end of the year (though he did clarify his rule that students were only entitled to one free pop!)

* He also made us write one page “reviews” of the books we read (mostly as proof we’d read them) and I got a couple on his “Wall of Fame”.  But I remember knowing so clearly that one of my reviews would go on the Wall of Fame because I wrote it in a “This…that, this…that, this…that” format where I literally felt my writing getting better as I put it down on paper!

* On that note, at the time I felt it was “cheating” that some of my classmates who didn’t like reading would look for the easiest, thinnest books they could find to move their cars forward.  (I remember “Illustrated Guinness Sports Records for Kids” being the type of title that was popular as each page had a cartoon with a short blurb at the bottom.  Our teacher’s rule was “any book you can find in the school library” counts and over time, I’ve come to appreciate that any reading is good reading so I realise these kids weren’t cheating and it was good they were reading anything, even easier books.

* Along those same lines, I’ve long believed that Stephen King was my generation’s JK Rowling and I knew more than one kid who hated reading but would read every book Stephen King produced.

* Thinking about this now, I suspect I read way more than 45 books that year since those were just the ones I read in school from our library.  I also read books I owned (often repeatedly) and books I got from the public library so I was probably well over 100 books read in total.

* I read “Diary of a Young Girl” (aka “The Secret Annex”) somewhere around grade seven for the first time and it hit me like a ton of bricks – so much so that I made a point of reading it annually for the next few years and then regularly after that.

* In our increasingly offense-conscious society, it shocks me to even think this but I remember being surprised to find “Mein Kampf” on my high school library’s shelves when I was in perhaps grade ten or so.  I checked it out (and credit to the librarian, she didn’t say anything or report me to the police!)  In some weird way, I had it in my head that this would be like the story of some comic book/movie villain.  But instead of being like that, it was…boring.  Rambling.  Incoherent even.  (I recently talked to a colleague who shared that they had a very similar experience with the book which was nice to hear that it wasn’t just me to felt this way.)  This is the example I always think of whenever I hear of people who want to censor an “evil” book or assume that anybody who reads something offensive or controversial will be negatively influenced by it.  This sounds very weird but I honestly think I was positively influenced by trying to read “Mein Kampf” (there’s a sentence I never thought I’d write on this blog and will be a contextless pull quote used against me if I ever run for elected office!) because it actually made me more open-minded, tolerant and willing to examine tough ideas.

After graduating high school, I started University with a declared major in…Business Administration.  My thinking was that this would guarantee me a job but after failing economics in my first semester (as much to do with having an 8:30am class in my first semester of freedom as my inability to master the concepts!), I went through a series of declared majors – Film, Psychology, Political Science – finally settling on English which is what I obtained my four-year BA – English degree in five years later. (Economics wasn’t the only class I failed!  So much for that super-smart kid from elementary school!) 😉

After convocation, it was tough to find work of any kind with a regular BA, let alone in my field but again, a lot of luck (also recurring theme requiring a separate entry about privilege in our society) led to me being accepted to a work placement program which led to contract work for the Saskatchewan Publishers Group, a province-wide publishing association.  That led to another contract then another contract then eventually, a restructuring in the organization when one co-Executive Director left which created a permanent position for me as “Marketing and Technology Officer”.

I did that job for four years from 1997-2001 then Shea graduated from nursing and I had the tough choice of staying with a job I loved or following the woman I loved to Alberta (uhm, Happy Valentine’s Day honey!)

I made the right choice and was *again* fortunate to end up finding work in the non-profit literary world, this time working for the Writers Guild of Alberta serving writers in many of the same ways that I’d served publishers in Saskatchewan.

Throughout it all, I was around books, authors, publishers, editors and was lucky enough to begin getting some of my own writing published in newspapers, magazines, and even editing or contributing short chapters to actual, real books!

I worked at the WGA for three and a half years then an opportunity came up to return to Saskatchewan.  We were home for a year when I decided for a number of reasons that the time was right to apply to complete my Master of Library Science degree – something that had been in the back of my mind for at least a decade.

I applied, was accepted and completed the accelerated MLIS program at the University of Western Ontario where I went for a single year of classes, taking one extra class per semester and working through summer to end up at the same place as a traditional two-year program.

That has led to the past ten years where I have worked in a variety of roles across two public library systems while also continuing to write for both pay and pleasure.  I was also recruited for the the board of Coteau Books, a local literary press that I’ve been connected to since I started working for the Sask Publishers Group in 1997.  I joined in 2012 and continue to sit on that board to this day.

All of this is a really long way to say that, in many ways, from those first steps into the Indian Head public library as a child where I felt like I truly had the entire world available to me through books on through my schools years, my undergrad education, my various jobs after I convocated, my graduate studies and now as a librarian, my entire life has been influenced by, immersed in and surrounded with books.

Even today, the Sask Book Awards were announcing their 2019 shortlist so I slipped down to RPL’s Central Library on my lunch hour to attend the announcement.

But sitting there listening to the nominees being announced, I couldn’t help but keep thinking about how many hats I wear at an event like this – I’m there as an RPL employee since I’m proud that RPL is a major sponsor of the awards, I’m there as a Coteau Books board member (11 nominations this year – the most for our press in a decade!), I’m there as a former Sask Book Awards board member, I’m there as someone who knows many of the writers and publishers from my previous jobs before I became a librarian, heck, I’m even there as an aspiring writer who likes to imagine what it’d be like to hold a book with my own name on the cover in my hands someday (and maybe even hear my name announced as an award nominee!)

I combine two of the biggest loves of my life by collecting books about the Beatles.

 

Congrats Michelle and Adam! (aka Mexican Wedded Bliss Is Better Than Mexican Prison Stress!)

You know you’ve exhausted every possible video on YouTube about your upcoming all-inclusive resort when you start delving into the whole sub-genre of wedding videos – glossy, professionally shot montages of all the expected scenes – the wedding party getting ready while drinking mimosas, the close-up of the rings, the awkward speeches.

Okay, I have a soft spot for these videos to be honest – partly because I’m a romantic at heart and partly because so many of these remind me of my and Shea’s Mexican wedding (no professional videographer present but we did have her brother’s friend running our video camera after her brother got dumped shortly before our holiday and had to find a substitute “date”.) 🙂

Anyhow, I watched the video below tonight and my absolute favourite part is that the best man apparently had a health issue at the last minute and couldn’t make the wedding so sent an audio version of his speech – which meant no one could give him a hand signal or even physically pull him off the stage as he told stories of public urination, breaking and entering, and how a bunch of friends had to scramble to get enough money to bail the groom out of a Mexican jail during an earlier trip!!!

(Okay, none of those are insanely unique in the realm of wedding speech “roasts” except perhaps the Mexican jail story.  But the best-man-at-a-distance also sticks the landing by pointing out the irony that the groom’s worst day of his life and the best day of his life both will have happened in Mexico!)

Which is all a long way to say that I’m planning to not even leave the resort during our trip in a week and a half and hopefully don’t end up in any Mexican jails either! 🙂

“I’m Ready For My Close-Up”

(More to come once the final product is edited and posted!)